SELF-HELP RESOURCES

Unwanted Sexual Behavior

Pornography addiction, intrusive mental fantasies, and compulsive sexual activities are all unwanted sexual behaviors that leave us frustrated and stuck. We don’t want to be stuck with these unhealthy sexual patterns, but we don’t know how to walk towards healing. The solution to unwanted sexual behaviors has been tainted with a list of do’s and don’ts, leaving us with an unclear road to recovery. Accountability, reading books, and devotionals are all markers of this unclear road—and in many respects these resources can help—but they don’t give space for each individual to tend to the specific needs necessary for their healing.

A resource page isn’t going to offer full healing either, but here are some practical steps to get you started:

Unwanted sexual behaviors typically follow particular patterns. Unpack your story and identify unhealthy sexual patterns with a Licensed Counselor at Counseling & Psychological Services.
Join a support group. We need non-judgmental and kind people to help us be gentle with ourselves in the midst of our shame and struggles. A good support group gives you the space to do this.
- We have groups at CAPS, but you can also check out a local Celebrate Recovery group.
Establish new disciplines that engage your mind, body, and soul.
- While pornography doesn’t encompass all unwanted sexual behavior, it is certainly the most common. Stay educated on the harmful effects of pornography.
- You don’t have to run a marathon, but exercise enough to get your endorphins flowing.
- Engage in consistent spiritual disciplines such as prayer, scripture reading, fasting, etc.
Eliminate access to pornography. Cutting off access won’t help you solve the core issues of unwanted sexual behavior, but not having access will help you have the mental clarity to start processing your unhealthy sexual behaviors.